WALKING AWAY FROM FRIENDSHIP
HAVE YOU EVER ASKED YOURSELF THESE QUESTIONS?
- I have a really unhealthy relationship with my friend! Can I or should I walk away?
- I have a friend that isn’t a bad person, but we just really don’t get along. And they just are always hanging around. What should I do?
- Isn't it wrong to abandon someone a friend who needs help even if they aren't a very good friend?
- How can I leave my friend when they need me? They don't really have anyone else.
1. JUST BECAUSE SOMEONE NEEDS HELP DOESN'T MEAN YOU ARE THE PERSON THAT'S SUPPOSED TO HELP THEM
Let me tell you this. We each have skills and a way of being, that will resonate better with some, than others. You may not be able to help every single person in a way that they can best be helped. That task may be waiting for someone else to step in and be the person God needs them to be. That's the power of being authentically yourself in Christ.
Keep in mind that maybe at this moment in time you aren't the person to help or go on this journey with them. And that's okay! Sometimes when we take it upon ourselves to help someone because we think we should, not because God actually led us to. And surprisingly we can actually end up causing more harm than good!
LET GOD BE YOUR GUIDE
Let God guide you to the people you are to help and how you are to help them. Don’t do it just because you feel it’s your responsibility to, or because you will feel guilty if you don't.
We don't need to intervene for God, He is very capable and great at doing that all on His own! All we are, are His little helpers that assist in accomplishing His will. And we need to make sure we are drawing a very clear line between what's our will. and what's His. It's very easy to start calling it God's will when it's not His at all.
So in conclusion, some friendships we are supposed to walk away from. Don't be afraid, trust and God will help you get out of it. And He will lead the person you are walking away from to the people they need. Just as He will lead you to the people you need!
2. UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS DON’T REAP BLESSINGS. FOR YOU OR FOR THEM.
Do you have a friend that you really don’t get along with half the time? Their more just someone to hang out with? Or are you friends with someone, but your relationship is all over the place. It brings you down but you don’t know if that means you should ditch the friendship?
Do not be deceived: "Bad company corrupts good morals." - 1 Corinthians 15:33
The way I've explained it to myself is how can the things that are happening in this relationship really be sent from God? And if this relationship isn’t from God, or the circumstances surrounding the relationship that are affecting the relationship aren’t from or of God. Then that means they are coming from somewhere else.
KEEP THE FRIENDSHIPS THAT MAKE YOU A BETTER PERSON
There is no good that comes from friendships that end up drawing you further from God rather than embracing the ones that strengthen your faith from the blessings and challenges that come from the right relationships. The devil wants nothing more to destroy your faith, and he most definitely can use unhealthy and toxic friendships to do so.
CHALLENGE, or STUMBLING BLOCK?
It's great to be challenged in our faith, and God absolute will place people in your life to challenge you or to reveal something to you. And it's not to say that you should walk away and stick your nose up to anyone who isn't the most perfect friend in the world haha. But there is great wisdom in knowing when it's not your time to walk along aside a person or help at that time. And to accept the fact that maybe you are just not the person that is meant to walk along side them.
Good intentions can quickly turn into a stumbling block , which then can turn into a foothold rather than a lesson learned that is beneficial to your faith.
Choose your friends using the wisdom God gave you, and pray always. You can release yourself from friendships that are weighing you down, and embrace the ones that lift you up closer to God.